Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Relationships evolve.

Sometimes in a way that facilitates growth, other times, change leaves once happy connections behind as a casualty of evolution.

Ending a relationship, whether it is with your boyfriend, best friend, family member, hairdresser, doctor, counselor, coach or trainer can be awkward when you leave having mostly fond feelings for the person left behind. When you will always have love and appreciation for the person themselves, it’s difficult to sever ties professionally or personally with someone you generally think positively of. There may be no other good reason for you leaving other than the time to move on having arrived in your life.

Everything may appear perfect in pictures or look appealing on paper, but inside one of the parties, a tide has shifted. It may have shifted slowly, a distant pang of progression quietly egging you to move on. Sometimes a sudden nasty disagreement can be the catalyist for change and the aftermath of shock and disappointment often knocks the unaware off their feet when one-sided unhappiness is revealed.

Classic 'It's not you, it’s me'.

But when the time for change has come, however the motivation to move on is delivered, take the opportunity to hop aboard a new adventure train and don’t look back with regret.

When you know in your heart it’s over, but hang on in the hope that things will go back to the way they used to be, you're inevitably setting yourself up for failure.

Nothing in life will ever be the way it used to be. Sticking around past the point of personal promotion undercuts the natural drive to succeed and will only lead to more unhappiness.

In more than one situation in my life recently, the question has arose how long is one indebted to the person who helped save them or drastically improved their quality of life? How long does a person stick around a less than ideal situation before allowing themselves to move on to the next phase and really be happy? Do you just continue a partnership or marriage because you feel loyalty to the person or union? Cling onto an extremely sincere feeling of gratitude to a previous feeling from a past situation that is now over and done?

What do you do when your present has surpassed the past?

Move onto to now.

Then is already over and when may never be.

A new motto has presented itself: 'Now is right on time.'

I saw this saying on the internet and though its painful and scary to move on, I’m not going to fret over wasted time or feelings of regret that I should have moved on sooner or done more to salvage a broken relationship. 　

"Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needs to be. Don't think that you've lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time."

Amen, God Bless, and good riddance!

New era of growth, hope, and change here we come, right on time…..